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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 - \7 X5 ]5 o* R% ?9 p) x7 f
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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: r) l- L/ A9 b7 E/ Z娃是很知道party的special的， ...& D; H( |0 h! P
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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# \3 A8 U- f" T8 O我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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( e+ x y3 F6 M$ c$ e: {另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。; l; }$ p4 Y- ^6 d
! s2 A Z$ W7 u) Z1 h对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举* h. v& |7 P. P1 e
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For Kids:
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They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.3 P" E& L; i( a+ _: X$ d
They are overindulged by too many presents.
4 w* }. T5 S. O- yThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 3 R9 x1 y: l, @" l1 I" ? X8 r! m9 B
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
! V3 r7 \! g5 P3 z8 F& i, Y: ?1 e They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
9 z. r/ P. p6 [ Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.( \# o5 S4 F. K) }2 v0 n
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Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
0 m3 U, G+ H# V% { B9 o$ iThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
A- {" h! G: y% D# }4 s2 D6 eThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. 0 B7 I. {. C: D
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.! g5 W; K- f3 X1 t Y2 D' M4 G
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
: @3 p c8 W$ B: sThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
~1 v1 [6 |! T' q! J. YThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
! ]1 y" L& ^0 jThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.$ b, |* j# G1 s8 R# d- R
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0 v2 z3 m; \. e' d T, Y/ E; ZFor the Community and Culture:
6 d' y$ z) i; S$ xThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:" v; Z2 O" C& A5 R& w6 {# ~
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A me first culture; Y7 O" I+ Q9 Q. _6 m
A trash and waste culture
. k% D$ ^- {7 \/ p+ f5 YAn entitlement culture
/ G h( w! j9 Z- i, Y3 dA envy culture' v( X& l$ h" y. E: d* R' G- ?
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10