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, D. R! b1 s- K3 v6 y幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气) l Z+ L$ t1 i
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...
+ F5 s+ z; g6 Usweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？ j" x/ w6 x/ G; p, P
; W/ Q, Q+ e6 `! T我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。* x# `) T/ [9 s, w/ p8 o% ~- s
" _& M' F. ~' ]7 W另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。' a' c8 U" z* z* G
4 D9 t& P) v5 ^* G对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举* { R Q, e& f& K
3 h! i# w. g) o7 b6 E; y5 fFor Kids:
) g, K+ B+ g, ~: \ x+ [Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
2 E8 S/ N( n/ a6 WThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
9 c6 v) w* Y( ?! e, @. |0 V They are overindulged by too many presents.
2 L6 `7 F8 H- [/ _" `4 ZThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
( Q4 u9 B, k& C6 eThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
$ i8 S. N$ ]7 e& g They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.) A& n* k9 b; ^/ V. `
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.7 [; a. ^) f; h7 @! e
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, X. }* d! r/ ]* c# u# q3 cSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.% H4 A( o3 T# F% {; B" u
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. . {$ G; U ?. h) `
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. " m; H; d+ q& m5 U
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.1 B3 `! R) i# w$ U+ S3 u
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.; v% c/ X1 B+ w
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
3 _# K& S- l5 \( O% X& HThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.1 N3 H4 ^4 l5 T; @) ]
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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1 H- y- i( f& o' ?For the Community and Culture:
) l; {0 ~% r3 K. A3 \9 KThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:/ _* A& a5 D" U# p& P" ~
A too much stuff culture
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A trash and waste culture" M( s1 a" j/ \$ z
An entitlement culture
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% f$ b0 \5 C# j" ~A more of everything culture |
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10