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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 3 w3 g8 D1 S. j8 R7 L9 d- n8 o
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气 v$ t( B9 ?- \; F
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sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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4 d* H6 d y- x, r5 o( s" ^0 ]5 ]我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。/ L/ o8 s2 V+ f8 M2 w% T
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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8 Y; A/ a" @6 @9 D4 \$ K对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举/ l4 X) \* E* z9 h% ~
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For Kids:
1 ~' ]6 i- P: S1 `" H" r7 ]Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. ; p6 M$ r4 x( W
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.9 l4 Z: J; f D& v
They are overindulged by too many presents. # Z) b7 K3 H3 I& l/ h! m
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. ! F4 ]% A( ~0 S" W2 \5 B
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
]- R) \: n+ v5 T; b/ F3 h+ q. `: { They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.7 L, e" q- m) O$ m4 l
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.6 z, P+ v) {# z5 i; ?
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; k. r3 G* q V |% W, `Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences. u! y, c( q l3 f1 X$ ]
They feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
0 b' K- I) L. @They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
7 w/ @- E- X7 B( q% N& kThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
( F* z5 A4 d! ]5 t* YThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.$ G1 ]$ P; W# P1 \7 f
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
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4 g) w5 r' s6 MThey experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.
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. C& @* g% E1 H' qFor the Community and Culture: / S& D E' ~8 o1 Q3 l, ]
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:3 U* G; g5 e- n3 }; Q' G: |
A too much stuff culture
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An entitlement culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ..." B8 R N' [1 }# d! v% w
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10