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- O- U0 {4 }( t5 M! d8 U1 h7 G u/ W幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气" v! Q6 q3 o9 K- g( d" {
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...
- z4 z# q6 q' j( x. y) {0 }sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
$ h- Q' j* q4 q7 z% c+ }我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？3 D! R9 R. I/ y# r" ]" Q* h8 b+ U, O
- V( b& ^* q, Q4 n% y我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。4 x( l: h& N8 _: ~$ [
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids: + x9 U3 K% J1 h* b
Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
" R/ H& e# R9 _; HThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
: @/ T) W( _' U5 J4 S0 E They are overindulged by too many presents. 2 z7 z8 R/ Z) n3 O
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. 4 a: N3 @: t1 U& u
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.& |- t1 X, O% l0 x4 V* W
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.2 I. M+ B! @# r: B
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.$ e& A) Z2 v1 z4 s i2 D
6 ]8 d# ^1 g% E. d9 ?For Parents:
: ]9 N/ K+ a3 m* pSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
, q* Z# L+ X/ g* a2 ~, rThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
& _6 Y' J' T% B: I# hThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
$ h9 i2 O) h" T8 u1 F, B3 [They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.* {; C% M( k/ J+ k$ D* L& O
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.. `9 q l. ~; s: a; Z
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”# n6 X0 t* M! Q& a
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.& |+ Z$ |6 ^1 A8 P# L! y
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.4 @1 i; d2 C" o
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For the Community and Culture:
& {6 w0 i) i. r4 Z. d) aThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:/ _. h; H& [) @6 K7 I% O; O2 p0 D, D+ D9 u
A too much stuff culture
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A trash and waste culture& T$ E4 H N) s+ Z) l
An entitlement culture
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...& K5 [0 ^% c4 p$ D: E0 x' |
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10