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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 6 \0 O7 N: h+ o0 X, C9 F% {) b: l
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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# ^3 x5 [1 z. ^ F& `; p5 f( s- V娃是很知道party的special的， ...
" T2 \3 e2 X3 w+ `3 Vsweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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$ E2 Z. W( [" z+ S7 }' S我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。' \& r C, a8 R4 m4 t
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另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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: K+ p! t2 l; F, I. W1 |$ A对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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. [; I5 u1 ~2 kFor Kids:
$ v/ \+ }+ C4 o" u3 y9 \Not all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
" P* A. q8 w7 q7 A6 X: V- sThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
) ~: y7 E7 W" s8 S( h$ g They are overindulged by too many presents. : D" D- ?9 E4 X- _# Q# m+ i
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
/ U( q& `- W. GThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.1 i( K* K9 _2 v
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
0 N$ a% J' S9 a+ T$ ]) U1 \ Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents: ' O# n. D: T& t2 v+ ?4 G" L
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
: N8 Y; w" p6 Q/ wThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
% U) m5 k! r: |9 [- m, t$ _. RThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
6 v0 c- a7 {; D, I! rThey feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.! C/ K" U1 C1 M& c, U" h9 L# M
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.: S- ~2 L+ J9 Z& l! u1 N6 Q
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”6 m; h; k- g/ y$ h6 O" _, |& V( B
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.( ~3 z" q1 L# R+ p' Y& q% E
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.; Y1 {" I4 U1 `0 C" c. R) `
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:+ z" h7 }7 X! h6 J' W
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A trash and waste culture3 Y% P$ t5 c9 K* d5 o& j
An entitlement culture
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9 T: j0 ^) c+ E. o( _/ oA more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
狗仔卡
发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10