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Originally posted by shuishijie at 2005-6-24 12:15 PM:
2 w5 X! x M0 a, ?$ M/ |! Qi sense a little tension here
' \0 Q! J1 N5 u( fsorry, i didn't mean you by 'you' which is a general reference.
o8 v% |7 h5 b5 mback to our discussion, you are absolutely right.
9 M; m' u- r9 s& }: ?; G( gif she/he 有那金刚钻, ie. intelligence and self-control, then she/he 就能揽这瓷器活儿.
0 V( h9 d9 [/ w" \- V, gFurthermore, if she/he cheated and is able to hide it for the rest of her/his life, then she/he has to bear with the guilty for the rest of her/his life.6 y9 u' a0 i/ o7 H( Z) }
If both cheated and can face it very well, then both of them will be worried if the other will cheat again.- V. y- U, |: }8 w# g3 Q5 f
If both are not worried about the other cheating, then is this a marriage you want?8 e9 a. l! V& @/ ~8 h
Not mean you here 5 }. P( s: I2 {
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没有没有,没有任何敌意, 随便聊天。
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. e$ W1 R: G. C& l其实我只是说一种可能性,并没有道德评价,或者人身安插。2 A5 x5 H& }6 [5 ?4 J
X6 U) a# y( ]8 k( I: @: T你后面的三种情形,不同的人,不同的情商,不同的原则,处理情况也不同,有的一样可以花好月圆,有的则是一团乱麻。所以我说的“金刚钻“的比喻,是说没有大家都搞定的本事(搞定情人老婆劳工和自己),就别冒险。8 G% P) l. g0 C% M$ h# c
P# Q$ Y9 j) R4 f& l比如前几天看到杂志里谈到“处理婚外恋“说得好,向你的伴侣坦白之前,先想一想,如果你只是想摆脱guilty感觉,那么向伴侣坦白,等于把自己的负担转移给你的伴侣而已,对你的婚姻毫无好处,那么不如跟心理医生讲述。除非这次婚外行为有性疾病的可能,你需要带你的伴侣去就医。所以还是说呢, if you can not take the heat, get out of the kitchen.% u1 P7 h5 e* {- S# J: t f) A
& \% M% m- |- z我本人对夫妻远距离生存,各找临时情人,是持理解通融的态度的。我并不羡慕那些多年分离还守身如玉的夫妻。当然我也崇尚夫妻的忠诚,所以我更希望的是常相厮守。 |
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