<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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. W8 @; Z7 M! x. F; V1 D& HOn Children
' c' W/ i+ C3 Z6 t. r6 {- g Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
+ [: ^, f- q2 v# b- R  QThey come through you but not from you,
: X) M" p- L4 zAnd though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
- m- Y0 X' j7 |9 U9 @- iFor they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
& `$ h) g7 j) t( O8 wwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
: `9 b  h, W5 i9 k% e* b) CYou may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
7 q& j- I0 K- w: P! Z# pFor life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
# f: g' G2 G5 w( T4 {as living arrows are sent forth.
; M' ^3 _9 W3 oThe archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
( b! X% x( Z/ M' k' C8 aand He bends you with His might
. ^' W) t3 P2 I  w  C& ]# R( Ithat His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。

你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
; y3 b$ g7 W, r* S' L你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
因为他们有自己的思想。
9 x! J; l+ a9 l( J. q3 \& F* p你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
- x; N0 H& A: O1 e# }1 v% H因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
* W  M9 f2 g. H你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
* U+ D% L3 t: L' g却不要让他们变得和你一样，
因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
& ^, p, I; _9 [0 x& p它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
. g  X5 o8 C4 e+ H4 c- {怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！