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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.' R2 I G8 g) W0 n
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.) L7 p+ m6 k% I+ r; S6 `1 j
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:% T, t0 G/ y9 {* r* `% C6 W7 e% W) A
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)& \* W& L. ~. a9 A0 _) Z
Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
+ L# ^% d2 q5 d I am fine, thanks! (You)
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Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)
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. R: m, F! U: ~+ I# K+ i0 v I am fine, and how are you. (You)7 M4 W" y: R; ]! t+ e' H9 A
Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)# M B1 q1 E% B1 d
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You). S3 G5 T; F* ]# e, T& z
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I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
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6 ]# @9 G5 a4 r. {8 _ Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)0 d: t' ?3 S0 i7 K" N- h
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)4 G$ Z: ~7 A0 T2 e7 p3 f# s
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How was your weekend? (You)8 M, E% H, e$ P4 c+ Y& Q+ I
Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
! Z; I; u5 n& H: ^4 K: a" i Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
8 {" h* A2 A1 H- I" J Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)& A, [6 n" U5 ]) T# X3 i. o
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
" j8 V" a6 g) }2 L9 ?' b Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.# \7 D& b* }2 d! j' H
Great idea and I will9 v/ S) t, m# A. m
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Then you see the boss walking by9 W, y6 s/ |, S' `6 u- b r* g
It is time to stop.
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& u# y' s7 D2 x- DThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
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