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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.3 u7 U# N9 @# Z* F5 Y$ C
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Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
# A" b& n2 B; ~1 K Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)7 z9 |3 m( D% V$ V5 _6 \
I am fine, thanks! (You)
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6 C. J' D3 g, A& hDay 2: Repeat Day 1 (You)! s! l: j" L" ~5 \& _
Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker)
8 y; `' R; u) o' N I am fine, and how are you. (You)
& V. `" b: @2 e* ^) R! T2 W Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
6 Y5 [1 I: k9 k2 j/ G& p Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)2 t2 N1 Q6 F' x/ X4 [
& U5 E. P5 b/ _) X8 M( ^6 TDay 3: Repeat
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1 T( s1 `5 T: V' k6 X, S. ~9 a6 R J I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker) {' |! v* j/ w+ y7 @9 V7 b
Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)$ j5 h. z: }8 B
Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)) s3 `; z1 p/ J
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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Next Monday: Repeat
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How was your weekend? (You)
( ~ P& G! V. K; f2 ? Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
3 C* g, z4 t! w5 Q4 b2 ]5 i. s Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)! W1 J2 ]& X" T3 B. {
Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
5 C R) R: L& A. W [ Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
# d B! e0 s$ V) T Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.9 Q! X- t$ }/ Y1 _# s; n1 Z$ M" S" ?
Great idea and I will
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! ]) Y! x0 e4 D3 ] Then you see the boss walking by
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# c. c( A2 Q5 x! JThe above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.: a" z5 ~8 T& @0 A# b) X. [. y
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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