Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.
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& _; ]  c+ y$ X+ G% ~5 m: IEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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7 N! F( Z% D) X) ^/ B% y" \8 VDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
* {  R0 ]. W# \            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

Day 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
  h# P1 v% e7 G) [            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)

; z% ]# l0 k) R$ N2 RDay 3: Repeat
9 r- c0 m* J1 \) K            Repeat
            Repeat
            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
1 G0 l7 Z, K4 n: K           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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8 K; P0 U( ]0 ~' Y5 B/ jNext Monday: Repeat
1 n; F1 h" Y0 ^' P1 I                        Repeat
                        How was your weekend? (You)
3 O' d. J. D" b5 B# C4 W/ O. L                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
$ U% H! j( y6 [! _1 K' D+ \$ s- Y                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
0 Z! ~+ ?  r' K. \) L5 {+ S                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
6 D5 t! T6 I8 B- x/ \, ^                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
( w4 @0 J: o4 Q: S2 i  g                        Great idea and I will
3 c1 D- \$ i( z! o0 v( z/ K* P                        Bla—Bla—Bla
. Y0 f' v% f4 j  i. U                        Then you see the boss walking by
                         It is time to stop.
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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! }, t# m/ i( G( i) |) a[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.